After becoming a parent, does it ever seem like you never find a minute to unwind and have time to yourself? It seems like there is always someone yelling "Mom" right when you sit down to take a breather, right? I find myself struggling with finding a balance between "me time" and being the "perfect mom".
I feel like there is so much pressure these days on being what we all think is the "perfect mom". You know, that one who home bakes all the PTA fundraiser cookies, has organic homemade salad for her kid's lunch instead of a Lunchables and spends glorious hours creating art project masterpieces with her kids, all the while being able to carpool this kid to soccer, that kid to band and this kid to ballet! Phew, I don't know about you, but this high expectation we have set on ourselves stresses me out!
How do I cope with feeling like I'm being pulled in every direction?
- The gym! I know the gym is not for everyone, but I have found solace in having that one hour a day, 3-5 times a week, all to MYSELF! I participate in group classes and that also keeps me motivated seeing the same faces there each week and making friends who hold me accountable for getting to class. Plus, group classes are WAY more fun than trying to workout on the machines or at home by yourself, in my opinion.
- Naps! I never feel guilty taking a nap when my toddler does, even when the laundry is piled up in the corner all the way to the ceiling. Sleep is super important for keeping your moods in check, so I tell all moms to sleep whenever possible!
- Get out of the house for some girl time! Manis, pedis, dinner, drinks, whatever is your go-to fun time away from the house. I've found my moods are much better when I'm able to get out and let loose with my friends, which leads me to number four.
- Laugh, laugh, laugh! Whoever said "laughter is the best medicine" was right! Laughter increases endorphins and reduces stress hormones, making us all feel better!
- Get a babysitter and go out with your significant other! So often our relationship with our significant other goes on the back burner after we become parents. Finding time to reconnect together by finding something you both enjoy, even if it's just going out to dinner, can really improve the overall household stress level. Don't feel like you can afford a sitter? Swap sitter time with another mom in your mom group! Each of you take one evening where you can watch the other's kiddos so you can take turns going out.
Whatever you happen to find solace in, be sure to utilize that method of stress relief as often as possible to help you be a better mom. Mom life is not always easy! Cut yourself some slack and allow your destress time!